Facing an unexpected pregnancy can be difficult, and it can feel even more challenging when you don’t have the support of those closest to you.
Ultimately, it is your decision how you proceed with your pregnancy, and no one should pressure you into making a decision that makes you uncomfortable.
Continue reading to learn more about how to address your partner’s pressure and have a safe and productive conversation about your pregnancy decision.
The Attitude of Your Partner
Is your partner pressuring you to abort?
Pressure can be direct or indirect. Direct pressure can take the form of threats or ultimatums, and indirect pressure may involve your partner giving you the silent treatment or making statements about not wanting to care for the child.
Pressure from your partner is never appropriate and needs to be addressed. You do not want your partner’s actions and attitude toward the pregnancy to impact your decision.
While you may feel confident that you’ve made your pregnancy decision and nothing could change it, pressure from those closest to you can have more impact than you may think.
Talking with Your Partner
Below are some tips on approaching the conversation with your partner in a safe way that prioritizes boundaries and invites them to be a part of your pregnancy journey.
- Prioritize Safety: If your partner has a history of abuse or you feel threatened by them, it is critical to first create a plan for your safety by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE). If you ever find yourself in a dangerous situation, call 911 immediately.
- Learn More: Confirming your pregnancy and receiving an ultrasound scan can provide valuable information to discuss with your partner. This will help you learn more about your options and show your partner that you’re taking your pregnancy seriously.
- Create Boundaries: Let your partner know that you will make the final pregnancy decision and will not allow him to pressure you.
- Get Help: If you and your partner are unable to have a productive conversation in a mature manner, you may want to consider inviting a mediator to help. This could be a friend, counselor, or family member who can ensure that you and your partner share your feelings in a helpful and appropriate way.
- Step Away: After talking with your partner, it can be helpful for you to both step away and take time to process your feelings about the pregnancy. With time, your partner may come around and show support for you and the pregnancy.
Seeking Support
Navigating a pregnancy decision can be overwhelming whether you have the support of your partner or not.
Chester County Connect Care wants to provide you with a safe, judgment-free environment in which you can determine your next steps.
We offer free lab-quality pregnancy tests and ultrasound scans, and our trained staff can answer your questions and discuss your options.
You don’t have to face this alone.
Contact us today for your confidential appointment.